New Parenting Goal: A Legacy of Intimacy

As a parent, begin the journey toward a new goal — developing a legacy of intimacy! Avoid being overly busy. Reevaluate the emphasis placed on acquiring more things. Determine to begin sharing your life with family members. Dream of your children being able to reflect back on their growing up years saying, “I know my parents loved me…”
  • Through the undivided attention they gave me
  • Through their patient listening to my hurts and fears
  • Through their example of faith, conviction, and prayerful walk
  • Through their empathy and openness as we shared feelings
  • Through their trust of my decisions and plans
  • Through the common interests and fun we shared
  • Through their verbalized appreciation and love
  • Through their openness to touch, hug, and reassure with their presence
  • Through their example of a grateful, worship-filled heart
  • Through their priority of God, His Word, and people

Yes    No

_____       _____ : I spend regular, quality, uninterrupted time alone with my spouse at least once a
week, (if married).
_____       _____ : I spend regular, quality, uninterrupted time alone with my children at least once
a week.
_____       _____ : I know who my children’s friends are, what they’re doing in school, and the
stresses they are under.
_____       _____ : I am approachable to my spouse and family. They are not hesitant to vulnerably
share their feelings, or to approach me when offended by me.
_____       _____ : My spouse and children truly know me, because I am comfortable sharing my
feelings and concerns with them.
_____       _____ : I keep up with and give priority to family birthdays and other special occasions.
_____       _____ : I spend regular, quality time deepening my intimate walk with God and
becoming equipped in His Word.
_____       _____ : I seek to share Christ with others in word, and by example. I start by sharing
Christ with my family.
_____       _____ : My checkbook, ministry commitments, TV, and reading habits reflect my love for
God and devotion to my family.
_____       _____ : I often use my free time to “enter into my family’s world” and do what they want
to do.
Now, choose one of the areas you would like to grow in. Brainstorm next steps and ideas with your spouse and/or enlist the help of a parent who is already doing this with some success. The encouragement and examples of others is important for positive change.

For help with this process and a more in-depth look, check out our Parenting With Intimacy resource!
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